I am getting married in just a few months & I can hardly wait! I am so excited to marry my best friend. Engagement is exciting and the anticipation is crazy. We are READY.
SO wedding planning- Where do you even start? I got engaged while I was still in school so I thought it would be best to have a long engagement (CAN I CHANGE MY MIND LOL). Its been almost seven months and I am beyond ready. But I am extremely thankful for an eleven month engagement because it has allowed me to care and think about the smallest details. I want my wedding to be extremely intimate and personal. I care so much about each person coming and want them to feel loved by us in many ways.
So my biggest encouragement to everyone who is engaged- always remember that this is ONE DAY. You are celebrating ONE day for the rest of your life. I am constantly reminding myself of that because its so hard to get caught up on all of the details. When you find yourself stressed call one of your girlfriends and get whatever it is off your chest, get their opinion, talk it out, etc. AND THEN move on! Don’t let that take away the joy of your sweet day and this precious season!
Another big thing that I have learned and am continuing to be better at is once a decision is made – BE CONFIDENT. Own it! It’s going to be beautiful. And honestly- who even remembers the table numbers or the decor on the cake table? Those are minor details!
Okay so back story- before I got engaged I never really thought about my wedding so I went into this process pretty clueless and if that is you YOU WILL MAKE IT! All the big decisions and all the little details work out exactly the way they should be and your day will be beautiful! (just don’t look back!!) Alex always reminds me to just focus on the big decisions. Its so hard to not get caught up on Pinterest and Instagram but back to that little reminder- IT’S ONE DAY! So anyways this process was quite comical at first- so I began by doing some research on Pinterest to see what kind of vibes I was going for.
After figuring out my theme, I made a list of things that were most important to me. I based my venue and date off of my photographer. If you don’t follow @jennarouth, you absolutely should check her stuff out because she is WONDERFUL and quite talented (she took the pics above). She has also made this entire process so enjoyable and has been such a good vendor. AND HER PHOTOS ARE BOMB. Any ways lol I’m sorry I’m so ADD. So Jenna’s dates were super limited for 2018. I struggled to find venues that were available on her dates. PRAISE THE LORD for Beckendorff Farms being available before 2018 ends. This venue is perfect for the vibes I am going for and has the option to get married outside (YIPPEEE). After picking the venue, I thought it was important to find my dress .. idk why I was in such a hurry for my dress but I am super thankful I did because it has given me time now to alter it and take time to take bridals, find my shoes, etc.
Do I have a wedding planner? NO 🙂 Some days I get completely overwhelmed and just ask my self why didn’t I go the easy route and just get someone to do all the dirty work? And then I remind myself that I don’t need one. I am capable of doing this. Personally, I think a planner would sway my decisions and I would feel obligated to say yes to what she wants and not what I want. Also- it’s going to be so incredible to walk into our reception and notice every detail that I WORKED ON and spent hours thinking about.
After picking the venue I created an excel sheet with exactly how much my parents and I were willing to spend on each vendor (basically WHATS IMPORTANT TO YOU?) This was hard for me because I didn’t really have a range of how much each vendor would cost. I decided- I wanted everybody to have a total BLAST and remember our wedding as a huge celebration!
Wedding planning can be emotionally exhausting, but you always have to remember the bigger picture that YOURE GETTING MARRIED. It is such an exciting season and it’s so easy to let the little details steal your joy.
COMMUNITY. I’ve learned this season is so much easier with community around! Having a select few people there to help me make quick decisions and allowing them to be involved, has helped SO much. It’s also been such a sweet process walking through this with my best friends. I have a hidden Pinterest board that has been SUPER helpful and is full of ideas that I can show my vendors or even just make at home.
EXPECTATIONS. Holy cow. This is a huuuuuge part of wedding planning, engagement, marriage, your first house, college, friends. Pretty much- expectations are everything. It’s super important to recognize when your expectations have reached a level that could lead to disappointment. I really struggle with this because I dream a lot and love to make something happen. There are things that can easily get in the way and cause something to not follow through and your expectations become let down. One big thing I have always looked forward to when getting married was the opportunity to do my rehearsal dinner at my parents house. Their house was BEAUTIFUL! And I always dreamed about it being there. Sadly, a few months before we got engaged our house flooded from a hurricane and we are in the process of having to re-build. My expectations eventually caused some frustration and disappointment. BUT I have learned to surrender those expectations and have found something just as beautiful! And at the end of the day- it doesn’t matter where the rehearsal is located. It matters that Alex & I are getting married and everyone is there to celebrate God’s faithfulness and His love for us! So always remind yourself that things can go wrong during wedding planning. Take deep breaths. Take lots of breaks. Have a GNO. And recognize that it is going to be okay and still be wonderful no matter what the situation is!
There are SO many things I have learned during this season of engagement! I can’t wait to share more with you guys. If y’all have any specifics you want me to talk about just shoot me a quick email at: email@example.com + or message me @emmyhennyyy.